A while ago, I went through a bad breakup. And it was sh*t. But not as bad as it did when it initially happened. Without going too deeply into whys and whats, the breakup itself was horrific and for a while after I was toying with whether a reconciliation would be a good idea. That was until I read a short kindle book called How To Really Get Over A Breakup by Joanne Sohn. This guide not only breaks down what to do straight after a breakup, it also gives you steps on how to move on and become a stronger person after the breakup. So, how did I get over it? Here's some steps I tried to keep a sane mind and focus on me.
Make a playlist
I have 4 different playlists that I created on Spotify. One that helps you heal, one that makes you happy, one that makes you get up and forget and one with songs to avoid. Songs to avoid? Yes. There's nothing worse than listening to some girl power songs and then THAT song comes on. The one song that reminds you of them. F**k that - put them in the avoid playlist until you're ready to listen to them.
The first thing I did was delete all social media contact. Facebook = unfriended. Xbox = unfriended. Twitter = unfollowed. Anything that you have that has some sort of connection to them, cut it for at least 30 days and if they were really bad news - forever. You just need time to process all your feelings - not just you but them too. It's gives them or you the time to really think whether the breakup was a smart move or not!
Do not seek closure
I speak with experience with this one. I sought out closure and a whole whirlwind of hurt came my way. I still haven't got closure so there was no point in seeking it.
Goes without saying. If you feel/have been treated like sh*t, don't inflict that on others who may be genuine. No Tinder, No POF and definitely No Badoo. This is a time to reflect, be confident in yourself, learn to be by yourself and learn to love you :)
Occupy your time
This is a good time to find out which friends have got your back. Doesn't matter how busy your friends are, if you are going through a crisis, they will bloody be there. Failing that, Netflix/Amazon Prime and any other video streaming site is going to be your best friend! Make a list of things you want to achieve or do and do them. Now is the perfect time to throw yourself into a hobby.
The saying is very true. Time is the greatest healer! Heal first before you can do anything else so you can become a stronger person and see through any bulls**t that was thrown your way.
"It is you who has to find strength within yourself to endure this process"
You will get through this. Everyone does and it may not seem like it right now but one day there comes a point where enough is enough and you want to start living your life and return back to being you.
1. To invent again or anew, especially without knowing that the invention already exists.
2. To remake or make over, as in a different form.
3. To bring back; revive.
I'm on a mission to reinvent myself.
Everybody always says this but they never do.
There's so many aspects of my life that could do with sprucing up, which no doubt I will go into in more detail. This blog will be like my own little therapy sessions and hopefully others will take something away from it too.
Last time I blogged, I was trying to conform. I was following everyone else's interests. Although I was successful and had a following, I wasn't myself. This time I want to be authentic and be me. Talk about issues that are on my mind and things I'm into. Be honest and true and just go back to the blogging I enjoyed.
Welcome to the start of my reinvention.
Categories: daily life
I wanted to share with you Adam's work (who is friends with Jackie @ Il mio Viaggio) who makes these amazing pieces based on cities in the USA.
"I start every piece the same: I roughen up the wood, paint it, stain it, paint it, then stain it again. I've discovered a unique painting technique that enables me to achieve the 'vintage look' that I've been embracing. I print the design and match it to a piece of 'vintage wood' that I think will work best."
"Next, I do a matte medium transfer of the print to the wood, and once that's finished I seal it. Then I draw on it, or use marker, or I paint it, or spray paint, and I sometimes use stencils. I then add on some final details to make the composition more dynamic and give the piece more depth. Lastly, I put a final gloss seal on it and ship it off to my (hopefully) happy customer via the pony express."
He also says: "Any ideas for commissioned pieces are welcome! Want some super heros? You got it. Old baseball cards (Pokemon too)? Yup. Sports teams, colleges, family portraits, landscapes—no problem. How about you as a centaur? I can do that too; seriously.. Anything you can think of is possible. Bring an idea, I'll provide the vintage aesthetic."
Hmmm.. me as a centaur? That would be pretty epic - but I still think this one is my favourite:
Go check out what he has to over at his shop as he has since gone on to do AMAZING things! You should also go check out Jackie and her incredibly talented friends here :)
Main sources from here.
Categories: art crush
I've always wanted to get a tattoo but 1. never got round to saving the money and 2. I get really anxious about the experience. My friend just got her 4th tattoo and am thinking maybe I should get one when I finally finish uni. Obviously, I have to think very carefully about what I am going to get and where but I have plenty of time. In the meanwhile, check out these cute tattoos I found on we♥it;
Has anyone got a tattoo? What made you decide to get one?